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The ex factor: what to do when you bump into each other again

exIs there anything more awkward than bumping into your ex soon after breaking up? Probably not, but that doesn’t mean you can’t diffuse the situation with your head held high.

Have a plan 

Knowledge is power, so make sure you have an idea of how the encounter will go, and you’ll be able to control your reaction to it. Will you hug, maybe exchange a kiss on the cheek, have a little small talk? Whatever your plan for your first post-breakup meeting, stick to it and you’ll get through it.    

Make it snappy

If you’re the kind of person who babbles when you’re nervous, you need to make sure the encounter is as short and sweet as possible. The longer you stand there, the longer you’re bound to waffle on, and the more likely you are to say something you’ll regret.

Own it 

If your meetup was unplanned, chances are you’re in your tracksuit with dirty hair, PMS, and a giant zit in the middle of your forehead. Because that’s life. No matter how grim you think you may be looking, just own it. Don’t make apologies, don’t look embarrassed – just be the strong, confident woman you are throughout. It’s the only way to play it. 

Resist the urge to brag

You might be dying to bring up your brand-new relationship, but curb your urge. It might come off as sounding like a desperate lie. If you’re asked about how things are going, just say “Great”, and move along swiftly. 

Be cool 

Don’t bring up old fights, don’t resort to name-calling or sarcasm and whatever you do, don’t flirt! Be civil, polite, respectful and leave with your dignity intact. 

Phone a friend 

Once you’ve said your goodbyes, if you feel you need a shoulder, call one or all of your girl squad for some much-needed support. It’ll help take your mind off the awkwardness of it all and help you remember what’s truly important in life: the love of those who’ll always stick by you no matter what.

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