Let’s face it, dating is hard. And if you’ve been out of the game for a while, it’s that much harder. When you’ve been single not just for months, but for years on end, meeting people and forming relationships can seem unnatural, unfamiliar and just plain wrong. But if you’ve reached the point where you’re ready to make space in your life for someone special, it’s a step you’ll have to take. Here’s how to get back into the swing of things with as little drama as possible.
So cliché, but so true as well. If you’ve been single for a long time, you’ll have an excellent sense of who you are as a person – so show yourself off in all your wondrous, authentic glory and watch as people respond to your positive self-image.
If you have single friends who are dating, ask them for tips (Tinder horror stories anyone?) and use their advice to help you navigate the dating scene. Similarly, chat to your coupled-up friends and find out their opinions on what makes a relationship work.
Change it up
If your ideal type used to be the tortured artist why not try the ambitious go-getter this time round? A change is as good as a holiday and you might find that by trying new things, you’ll discover what you were really looking for all along.
Don’t talk too much
You don’t have to sit there like a mute, but monopolising the discussion isn’t attractive either. There’s no need to go into detail about why you’ve been single for so long – just throw in some interesting conversational tidbits and listen like you mean it when they respond.
There’s no need to make the decision to start dating, and then furiously search for a wedding dress. Just take it easy and enjoy the process. Don’t pin all your hopes on the first person you meet. Take your time getting to know people and let things progress naturally.
You came, you saw, you conquered. High five to you! Now it’s time to read our one-night stand etiquette guide.