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How to be a sexual unicorn

Text: Staff; Photography: Instagram/@innoballoons

August 1, 2017

How to Be a Sexual UnicornSamantha Jones called it “being the guest star,” and Britney Spears has a song about it. You get what we’re talking about: a threesome — specifically the bisexual (or just flexible) third person a couple adds to their relationship, also known as the unicorn, so called for its near-mythic rarity.

Meredith Clark, former (and possibly future) unicorn summed the role up like this: “The person who comes into a couple either for a threesome or to enter into a triad polyamorous relationship.” Clark explains it as “dating a couple” because, while she could have conversations and “individual relationships with two of them,” she “wasn’t there to have a relationship with one or the other. I wasn’t there to create a situation that was equal between all three of us.” She’s the “something extra.”

Clark decided to look into a rélationship à trois after her wedding was cancelled and she found herself wanting something casual and definitely wanting sex. Enter 3nder, now called Feeld, a dating app for individuals and couples where things are way clearer than on other apps. “I preferred going on 3nder way more than regular Tinder or Bumble or something because of the pretenses required for dating, or just if you were going to hook up with someone, there was this layer of bulls**t on regular dating apps,” she says, “but if you were on 3nder, everyone knows you are DTF, so you just jump to: Do we get along well enough?”

And they did. The first couple Clark matched with were “fun and crazy people,” and she slept with them after their first date, leading to a fun, casual summer fling featuring trips to the beach and a bunch of dance parties. The best part of being the third person, she says, is “you’re always in the driver’s seat.” If you’re not feeling like hanging out, you just don’t, and if there’s a disagreement or fight, you can just leave. The couple, however, is stuck with each other. The key is communicating clear boundaries and then sticking to them. Clark wanted something casual, and she gave a hard “no” to anything too serious. That included the suggestion that ultimately finished the fling: “It was time to end things when they wanted to do a group Halloween costume.”

Taken from GLAMOUR US. Click here to read the original.

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