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Dating your best friend’s sibling? Here’s how to keep it from being awkward

Text: Nicola Davidson; Photography: IMAXtree

Dating your best friend’s sibling? Here’s how to keep it from being awkwardYour BFF is the closest person to you in the whole world – the one who you laugh, cry, and share all your best and worst boy stories with. But what if the individual you’re talking about turns out to be her sibling? Is there a way to date them and still stay close to her at the same time? Let’s investigate.

Honesty is the best policy 

It’s true in life and it’s true in love, too. If her annoying sibling is starting to look more attractive to you than usual, tell her that you could be interested. If she freaks out, you might want to consider not going there. If she doesn’t, she could be open to the idea. Either way, she’ll appreciate you being open about it, rather than going behind her back. 

Set boundaries 

Once you start dating her sibling for real, the two of you need to set some boundaries as to what you’ll share about them. Will she be open to you sharing any issues or will her loyalties lie with them, as her sibling. Will she be able to moan and groan about them to you or will you not be open to any more family spats? There are no right or wrong answers here, simply decide on what the two of you are comfortable with and follow your own rules. 

No PDA in front of your best friend 

And no sex talk either. Because, ew. 

Don’t let the friendship slide 

It’s common for people in new relationships to spend more time with each other than with their friends. That doesn’t make it right though, especially when the friend is your BFF. Be careful not to let your bestie feel sidelined or forgotten as you explore your relationship with her sibling. Instead, make time to see her just as much as before, and make sure she knows she’s just as important to you as she always was. 

Make sure you have an exit strategy 

While you’d love to think of her sibling as ‘the one’, if things don’t work out, make sure you know how things will stand with you and your bestie once the relationship is no more. Will you still be just as close as ever or will there be a distance between you? No person is worth losing a friendship over, so if you think there’s the slightest chance that your friendship could suffer, rather put your feelings on hold, and keep your bestie instead. Girl power is always worth fighting for! 

Looking for more love and relationship tips? Here are 5 reasons to consider dating your bestie and our DOs and DON’Ts for keeping both your BF and your BFFs!

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