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What the heck is relationship “benching”?

Text: Alice Howarth, GLAMOUR UK; Photography: IMAXtree

What the heck is relationship “benching”?We’d just got to grips with being “ghosted” but now there’s a new term to consider when you jump on the dating merry-go-round. Yes, “benching” is a thing, ladies and gents.

Let us break it down.

If you’re “benching” someone, it means that you’re not not interested in them but you’re not wanting a full blown relationship – essentially, you’re on the fence. Therefore you don’t want to commit but every so often you send them a text when you fancy a little cyber flirt, suggest a coffee when you need a dose of attention, or just suggest a full-blown night of one-off sex and then go MIA until you decide you want to see them again.

If you’re being “benched”, you’re the one left hanging. Unable to break free because a) you like the person benching you so it’s hard to resist and b) every time you’re about to plan a date with someone else, miraculously they rear their head. Temptation, overload.

It’s just a nightmare of no-closure. At least when you’re “ghosted”, albeit painful, you can eventually just move the hell on, right?

What do you make of benching? Is it okay because the other person could just walk away or is it unfair to keep someone hanging on? Tweet us and let us know.

Taken from GLAMOUR UK. Click here to read the original.

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