If anyone ever tells you that wedding planning is ‘easy’ and ‘stress-free’ – they’re lying! From narrowing down the guest list to chasing suppliers, planning your big-day can seem like a never-ending list of tasks. It’s “your day” but be prepared for the fact that everyone will sound in on the decisions you’re making. But just remember: you can’t please everyone (and you shouldn’t try to). Here are five things that you shouldn’t feel guilty about while you plan.
1 It’s OK if you’re not having a huge wedding
If you come from a large family (and so does he) then you’re going to have a tough time narrowing down that guest list! Yes, your second cousin and distant aunt might get offended that they weren’t sent an invite to your big day (even after finding out how small your guest list it), but it’s OK. Wedding size is a personal decision and you have every right to invite as many or as few guests as you want.
2 Plus ones aren’t mandatory
Let’s face it, weddings are expensive and you need to keep costs down. So, if you’ve never met someone’s plus one or if they’ve only been dating for two weeks you don’t need to feel obligated to invite them. If your friends don’t understand, that’s their issue, not yours (sorry, not sorry)! Long-term partners are a different story, obviously.
3 Skipping bridesmaids
Never feel guilt-tripped into asking someone to be part of your big day. Maybe she’s your childhood friend and you only kind of keep in touch, or she’s your sister-in-law to be and you’re not exactly close. Whatever the reason, you aren’t obligated to include them in your bridal party. If you think it’s going to cause issues, then just be upfront about it from the get-go, or ask her to participate in the wedding in some other way before you ask your bridesmaids to be part of the wedding.
4 Have the bachelorette party YOU want
Desperate to jet off to a tropical island with your besties? Why not! Just don’t be offended if some people can’t afford the trip. If you don’t want to be dressed up and paraded around town like a curiosity make it known. Otherwise you could end up being covered in glitter, a tiara, sipping on penis-shaped straws… and hating every second of it. And if you really don’t want a bachelorette party? Hey, that’s OK too.
If you didn’t create a registry and requested no gifts, don’t be surprise when your guests turn up with wrapped boxes or envelopes. The people who do bring gifts (even when you told them not to) are doing it because they genuinely want to. No need to feel guilty about it. Just be grateful.